Although I have already written a blog (http://sittinginatree.com/2010/12/) with some tips to keep in mind when writing an online profile, they were very basic in nature. This blog takes the same topic a bit further and looks deeper into how to write a unique and compelling online dating profile.
Tip # 1: It’s not a popularity contest.
Most people are overly selective in their dating. If I had my way, everyone would “date” anyone who was brave enough to ask them for a date. Unfortunately, that’s not the way it works…for now. So long as you intend to be selective, the goal of your profile should NOT be to write one that attempts to appeal to anyone and everyone. Rather, it should be written in such a way that it only attracts the people who you will find appealing and of interest.
Tip # 2: Take the time to understand your target audience.
How much thought have you given to the type of person you are hoping to attract with your online dating profile? Once you’ve identified your “target audience”, ask yourself if you know how to attract them and get their attention. Before writing the actual profile, I spend time with my clients ensuring they understand exactly who it is they are searching for and why. This makes writing the profile that much easier.
Tip # 3: Don’t try too hard to be what you’re not.
Sometimes after reading a client’s profile for the first time, I’ll ask them what their intention was when they initially wrote it and will often get a response like: “I was trying to be funny” or “I was trying not to sound so business-like”. It’s OK (actually, it’s necessary) to make your profile sound appealing, however, that doesn’t require you to be what you’re not. If you’re not a funny person, don’t try to write a funny profile…for example.
Tip # 4: No essays. You are not writing a dissertation.
Most profiles are written in paragraph form and read like an essay. After wading through a bunch they start to sound the same. Anyone who has tried online dating would agree that many profiles are repetitive, bland, generic or vague. With Tip # 3 in mind, try to be creative in a way that suits you. My profile – for example – is 10 Admittedly Trivial Things You May Want To Know. Cheesy? Perhaps. But so am I, at times. The feedback I’ve received though is positive – I’ve been told that it makes me sound fun, enthusiastic, well-rounded, inviting, and friendly…all true!